Addition By Subtraction

How letting go of people (and stuff) adds more to your life

When my wife and I separated, I had little choice but to downsize. We had made an amicable decision on how to divide the house post-divorce: she’d get the inside, and I’d get the outside.

Pretty standard.

We agreed that the boys came first and that the best move for them was not to move at all. So, I got an apartment nearby, and because the stress and strain of moving out was bad enough, I took very few things with me.

An amicable divorce is sort of like an amicable colonoscopy. Sure, it’s better if you get along with your doctor — but it sucks either way.

I wouldn’t call myself a minimalist, but I’ve never been a stuff guy.

I don’t judge anyone who owns a boat, jet ski, motorcycle, camper, inground pool, etc., but they all require time, money, upkeep, and a place to put them—kind of like kids.

In short, they’re a commitment, and I firmly believe that everything you “own” owns you.

Riding a jet ski is a ton of fun, but last I checked, you can rent one for an…