Ahhhhh makes total sense now.

"I'll swoon over the murderer because I'm safe at home and he can't hurt me here."

This as opposed to the imaginary man who could be 5 foot 2, gay, 130 lbs, elderly, blind, disabled, a double amputee, morbidly obese, etc etc

All of these men are a greater threat than a Grizzly bear?