Most misery is unmet expectations.

Women get an idea in their head of how vacations should be and how the holidays should be and how their relationships and marriages should be,
And when those lofty expectations aren’t met, they blame men for not doing “their half of the work.“

Most men would be fine with a very simple Christmas with immediate family. We would prefer it that way.

But women have a greater sense of nostalgia and sentimentality that they need to fulfill, so the bulk of the pressure to make everything perfect they put on themselves.