My ex-wife and I got a divorce five years ago because the sexual passion was gone.

We had fertility issues, and the process of conceiving our sons, who are now 11 and 15, was brutal. Lovemaking became a mechanical task. We tried to rekindle the magic, but it just wasn’t happening.


You article, which was very well written, blew me away. For a lot of reasons. And I guess what I really want to ask is:

now that you’re in your 50s… You’re both totally resigned to never having sex again—with anyone—for the rest of your lives?