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The Key To A Happy Relationship Is Living Apart
Yes, even if you’re married
In a world where romantic partnerships are often expected to follow the traditional blueprint — meet, fall in love, move in, get married — suggesting that couples might benefit from not living together can sound radical.
But for a growing number of people, particularly those in long-term relationships or second marriages, the idea of Living Apart Together (LAT) isn’t just novel — it’s a solution that keeps love alive and resentment at bay.
We now live too long to look at the same human being for decades without wanting to bury them in the backyard.
The Myth of “Happily Ever After” Under One Roof
For generations, the default image of a successful relationship has included a shared bed, a joint household, and intertwined daily routines.
But reality often tells a different story.
Living with someone—no matter how much you love them—can magnify differences, trigger unnecessary conflict, and erode personal autonomy.