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Top 5 AA Sayings That Are Total BS

The lexicon of Alcoholics Anonymous desperately needs updating

Dave Tieff
6 min readDec 12, 2024

Words are important.

They are the symbols and signposts we use to arrive at meaning and understanding.

When we use words that are inaccurate, misunderstood, or misleading, we only create more problems — particularly when it comes to sobriety and recovery.

I consider it a blessing and a curse, but I overanalyze the words and sayings I hear.

I ask myself questions like “How old is this saying?” and “Does it apply to current reality?”

Here is a short list of often-heard sayings in Alcoholics Anonymous that deserve scrutiny:

5. “Are they one of us?”

When you hear someone in an AA ask if they’re one of us, that means, “Are they an alcoholic — like us?”

50% of people who suffer from alcohol use disorder (AUD) also have co-occurring mental health issues.

To pigeonhole another human as “one of us“ isn’t just ignorant — it’s a little creepy.

AA members are only qualified to sit down with someone who wants help and guide them through the big book and the 12 steps.

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Dave Tieff
Dave Tieff

Written by Dave Tieff

Alcohol-Free singer-songwriter & AI-proof cyber journalist. Here to discuss everything sex, drugs, rock, and culture🤘🍄🎙💋 www.davetieff.com

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