What The Bill Belichick Interview Tells Us
Even older men aren’t calling the shots in their relationships
Just when you thought the Belichick/Hudson romance couldn’t get any cringier. The future Hall of Fame football coach’s CBS Sunday Morning interview — much like Tom Brady being selected 199th overall in the 2000 NFL draft — surpassed all expectations.
I wrote an article in February (below) about the false narrative that older men get into relationships with younger women simply because they are “easily manipulated,” and, of course, got the predictable backlash.
Oddly, none of this backlash came from young women, who, I’m guessing, don’t like to be thought of as too ignorant or immature to make an adult decision about who they choose to be with.
I’m still unsure what age they should reach (in the eyes of some backlashers) to achieve this age of wisdom. 25? 30? 35?
At what age does an adult woman get to make her own adult decisions?
Feel free to comment with an actual number, not just random vitriol.
Every relationship is different, and it would be foolish to imply no man is manipulative. But it’s just as obtuse to suggest that every young woman is innocent, naive, and has no idea what she’s getting into.
If there was a shred of doubt who was calling the shots in Bill & Jordon’s May/Boxing Day relationship, the CBS interview should have eliminated that.
I’m not here to condemn Belichick or Hudson; they are two grown adults free to be with whoever they choose. I did say their relationship was cringy, but in my opinion, so are most modern relationships.
Okay, cringy might not be the right word — drudgery is more accurate.
50% of marriages end in divorce, and of the 50% that remain together, most are destined for boredom and misery. Shoot the messenger if you like, but I didn’t create the reality.
We tend to overlook the most obvious reason people don’t stay together or remain happy “forever:” we live too long.
We’re not designed to sleep in the same bed with someone for decades and still be madly in love. This unrealistic expectation has become increasingly complex in the age of social media.
The state of relationships and marriage wasn’t exactly stupendous 20 years ago, but it seems to be at an all-time low and trending downward.
If he’s lucky, Bill Belichick has another 20 years to live. Jordon Hudson has considerably longer than that. As life spans continue to increase, she could live another 80 years.
They both know that, barring any unforeseen calamity, she will outlive him by decades. One has to imagine that’s what she’s banking on — and who are we to say that’s not the best move for both of them?
Through her relationship with him, she’s gained resources and influence, and when he passes away, she will probably be in her 40s, with lots of life left to live.
In his latter years, dare I say, “the fourth quarter,” he has found a younger woman who appears to be making him happy. Yes, the above photo is vomit-worthy, but it wouldn’t be much better if Belichick were 30 years old.
It doesn’t make me cringe more than the gratuitous “walking-on-the-beach-dressed-in-all-white” family photos that have become so popular.
Not popular with husbands, mind you. Zero men have suggested taking that photo.
Maybe…committing a “section” of your life makes much more sense today than the idea that you should spend 60–70 years together.
That might sound crazy, but does it sound crazier than spending 70 years together and not being sick of looking at that person? Twenty years would be a lot more realistic.
Jordon Hudson may be 24, but I’m sure she knows how much time Belichick has left.
Knowing this, and having watched the CBS Sunday Morning interview, if you still think he’s the one pulling the fishing line, you may want to check your own level of naivete.
You don’t think the Gordon’s Fisherman and mermaid idea was his — do you?
