Why Men (Can) Act So Differently After You Sleep With Them

Women aren’t the only ones who get the ick

Men can be players. Men can be liars. And men can only be out for sex. This is a fact. But a specific scenario can make even good guys look bad, and it’s more common than you think.

It should be noted that labeling anyone a good person or a bad person is subjective; we all have good and bad traits. Based on my experience with them, I’ve encountered plenty of “bad women,” but other men may have a different opinion of them.

Sometimes we’re the hero — sometimes we’re the villain.

I have a personal story that exemplifies this, and I’ve had many discussions with men who’ve had a similar experience — honest men who aren’t just out for sex.

In my 20s, I was a full-time musician and lead singer for a rock band (Laughing Colors) that played 15–20 monthly shows. I loved to party, drink, do drugs, and chase women, but I was not entirely opposed to having a real girlfriend.

There were a lot of conquests in my early 20s, but as I matured, I got tired of the one-night stands and sleeping with the…